{"id":543,"date":"2016-08-09T14:00:14","date_gmt":"2016-08-09T14:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tamibrumbaugh.com\/?p=543"},"modified":"2016-08-09T14:00:14","modified_gmt":"2016-08-09T14:00:14","slug":"battle-plans-for-7-types-of-stinking-thinking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tamibrumbaugh.com\/?p=543","title":{"rendered":"Battle Plans for 7 Types of Stinking Thinking"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"Stinking-Thinking<\/p>\n

Do you ever talk to yourself? I do. If someone else is around me, I try to keep my actual mouth closed so I can avoid strange looks, but I\u2019m still having a conversation in my head. Please tell me I\u2019m not alone. Dinner plans, what I walked downstairs to do that now escapes me, and my to-do list are common topics bouncing around my brain.<\/p>\n

Occasionally, my internal conversations turn into stinking thinking. Getting rid of stinking thinking is the first step in developing a positive attitude\u2014and it\u2019s the step I struggle with the most. Here are seven types of stinking thinking<\/strong> and how to change them.<\/p>\n

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  1. Overgeneralization:<\/strong> Making general conclusions based on one event. We use words such as always, all, every, everybody, none, never, and nobody. An example is, \u201cMy daughters always<\/em> take my Nutella.\u201d Try to use words like may, sometimes, most, and often.<\/li>\n
  2. Polarized Thinking:<\/strong> Thinking in black-and-white terms with nothing in between. We think something is either good or bad, a success or failure. An example is, \u201cI just finished eating too much Nutella. Now I\u2019ve completely blown my diet.\u201d (So I might as well eat the rest.) Allow yourself and others room to make mistakes without being labeled as a failure.<\/li>\n
  3. Filtering:<\/strong> Picking out a single negative detail and dwelling on it exclusively. For example, if I received great reviews on a poem I wrote about Nutella, but one person had a negative comment, I would obsess over that one comment and ignore the positive. Try to shift your focus back to the positive.<\/li>\n
  4. Mind Reading:<\/strong> Making snap judgments about others. An example is if I was talking about Nutella and someone wasn\u2019t giving me eye contact, I might think they thought I was boring and not worth listening to. Try to gather evidence before making inferences.<\/li>\n
  5. Should Statements: <\/strong>Telling yourself that things should be the way you hoped or expected them to be. \u201cI should be able to resist eating Nutella.\u201d Try to have more flexibility with your expectations.<\/li>\n
  6. Magnifying:<\/strong> Exaggerating the importance of your problems and shortcomings. \u201cI forgot to pack my daughter\u2019s Nutella and peanut butter sandwich. Now she\u2019s going to be hungry during auditions and not make it and that would be unbearable.\u201d Try tossing out words like awful, terrible, and unbearable. People can cope with much more than you think.<\/li>\n
  7. Personalization:<\/strong> Comparing yourself to others or relating everything back to yourself. \u201cShe has better self-control than I do, because she doesn\u2019t eat Nutella.\u201d Try recognizing that most comparisons are meaningless. Each of has have strong and weak points.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    So go ahead and talk to yourself. I certainly won\u2019t think you\u2019re strange. But let\u2019s be kind in our mental conversations and avoid the stinking thinking.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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