{"id":690,"date":"2017-02-14T09:00:10","date_gmt":"2017-02-14T09:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tamibrumbaugh.com\/?p=690"},"modified":"2017-02-13T03:25:00","modified_gmt":"2017-02-13T03:25:00","slug":"body-language-blunders","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tamibrumbaugh.com\/?p=690","title":{"rendered":"Body Language Blunders"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I crossed my arms and started rubbing them, trying to calm the goose bumps sprouting on my skin. If my jaws weren\u2019t clamped tight they probably would have been chattering. A sweater would have been smart. And a coat. And a blanket. They should not let men in thick suits set the thermostat.<\/p>\n

I tried to smile at the speaker, but guessed that it looked more like a grimace. My shoulder muscles tightened as I shivered. I pulled out my phone to check the time. Another hour until I could escape to my car and crank up the heat. I sighed. I\u2019d looked forward to this conference, but I was too cold to focus.<\/p>\n

Time crept by. After more periodic glances at my phone, I was relieved to hear the speaker make closing statements. I gathered my belongings and made a dash for the door.<\/p>\n

\u201cTami, wait up!\u201d<\/p>\n

Drat. My heater would have to wait. I turned and plastered a smile on my face. \u201cHey. I\u2019m glad you made it.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cMe too. I wound up taking quite a few notes. Maybe you\u2019ll enjoy the speaker more next time. Some people say you have to get used to his style.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat?\u201d I rubbed my arms again. \u201cThe speaker was fine.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOh. Well, it looked like you weren\u2019t a fan. So will I see you tomorrow?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou bet.\u201d I hustled to my car and waited impatiently for the heater to begin spurting warm air so I could thaw. My mind began replaying the conference, trying to find how I had given off the wrong vibe. My heart sank. In my struggle to endure the cold, I\u2019d allowed my body language to send the wrong signals.<\/p>\n

Here are 7 types of attentive<\/strong> body language<\/strong> that I will be careful to use in the future.<\/p>\n

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  1. Face the speaker<\/li>\n
  2. Turn off technology<\/li>\n
  3. Maintain eye contact<\/li>\n
  4. Lean forward<\/li>\n
  5. Keep arms uncrossed<\/li>\n
  6. Smile or mirror the speaker\u2019s facial expressions to show sympathy and empathy<\/li>\n
  7. Nod occasionally<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    For the next conference, maybe I really will<\/em> bring a blanket. I have a feeling the person setting the thermostat wasn\u2019t <\/em>attentive to my body language.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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